From the age of 11 until I was 18 years old, I studied at girls’ schools. The first was a comprehensive girls school (for non-British readers, it’s basically a free school that you get into depending on where you live), and then when I was 16 I went to a girls’ grammar school (grammars are supposedly for more academic students).
Both schools had very different vibes from each other… But I am so so glad that I spent those years at female-only schools. This has shocked some people, and I’ve been amazed by how vehemently some people oppose single sex schools, especially when they haven’t been at one themselves.
I know that if I’d been at a school with boys, everyday would have been thinking about boys; worrying about boys; being distracted by boys. I can safely say I’m not like that anymore, but when you’re a teen, you are essentially a hormonal ticking bomb. And thanks to being at a girls’ school, that bomb was safely secured in a box buried a few cms under the ground.
Yes, girls’ schools can be bitchy and cliquey, but you’ll get that at *any* schools where there are girls, and to be honest, it actually doesn’t faze me anymore. Not to brag, but I’m basically fluent in “girl talk” now, and I don’t know if I would be if I hadn’t spent 7 years solely surrounded by other girls…
So… did going to a girls’ school make me crap at conversing with men? Yes. Talking to boys at first was terrifying. Out of this world terrifying. But it didn’t take me long to get over it and quickly get a boyfriend…
And okay, sometimes I overshare (I’m that TMI kinda girl who either makes you very comfortable or very uncomfortable) and sometimes that confuses men (and also women occasionally, oops). But I have come to think that it is actually a good trait to be so open. I wear my heart on my sleeve, and also details about my periods, my relationships, my opinions… You get the idea. It’s why I have a blog.
But overall, I think going to a girls school has really helped shape that openness, and also confidence in talking about myself, about feelings (all of the feels) and being there for people. Girls schools are awesome, and a lot more normal than a lot of people imagine.